Sunday, August 31, 2014

Do I Have a BF?

I'm getting multiple texts from my new friend Steve everyday.  "Good morning Sir!"   "How is your day going"  "Have a wonderful day!"  This guy has really latched onto me.  It feels good to be pursued.  I was sort of indifferent on this guy in the beginning, but now I really like him.  He's a well educated, interesting guy, and I feel like I can trust him.  We haven't talked about where "we" are at.  Does he want to get serious?  Or is this just fwb?

He is in Korea for three more weeks, and then in the US for 3-4 months.  He's already suggesting that we take a weekend trip together when he gets back.  I have more freedom in my life now, and it will be nice to have someone to do something with.  He seems to be very cautious.....he hasn't done very much on the gay scene.  He lived in the Toronto area for a few years, and I was surprised he'd never been to the Gay Village.

He's getting better in bed.

Given his temporary status in the US, I doubt this will turn into anything.  This guy has a very common story among gay men.  A movie I've seen many times.  He's not out.  His family doesn't know.  He's early 30's and they are pressuring him to get married.  He hasn't been in a relationship.  OMG, I hate this.  He deserves a better life.     


  1. I say, just go with this for now and enjoy it, RB. You sound like you're in the best mood I can recall in a while. Good for you! Is the image accompanying the post actually Steve or a body double?

    1. Sort of a body double....

    2. You have heard this story before (family doesn't know, etc).

      Maybe if you assume that a full-time, long-term relationship with Steve is a possibility, that will be the first step toward making it happen. You know what I mean? If you're doubting the relationship's future, that's likely to carry over in how you interact with him and that could turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy. Life is unpredictable. If you like this guy, and he likes you, that puts you *way* ahead in the relationship scramble. Be happy you have that!

    3. I am happy to have that! It's just that I don't want to set myself up for a big disappointment in a few months. I remember how much it hurt when Seth left. I thought it would turn into something and I was so disappointed when it didn't.

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