Sunday, September 10, 2017

Booking My Trip

Finally I've found time for a great trip!

First two weeks of December.  The plan is that my bf and I will go to China for a few days, and then to Phuket for a week.  We will go from Phuket to KL, maybe through Langkawi and Penang.  The trip will end in Singapore.  We will part ways for a while.  He flies back to China and I head to the US.

I really need some relaxation.  I'm hoping the time in Phuket will allow me to recharge.  I think early December will be before the busy season hits.  Some friends went to Phuket about two years ago and gave it favorable reviews, but it seems really built up to me.  I'm surprised at how many hotels and condos are there.  Even some of the smaller islands (Koh Samui?) have surprising number of hotels.

I lost at least a week of vacation last year -- just left unused.  I cannot do that again.

I'm also facing another big life event.  My bf finishes school and may need to continue his life somewhere else.  Back to China or maybe Toronto?  Not sure yet.  It may mean our relationship ends, and I'm really sad about that possibility.

Saturday, July 8, 2017


Andy and I did make it to the Toronto Pride.  Hotels were generally 2-3 times the normal rate, but I lucked out by getting a place in Yorkville with points, so that worked out.  Many people had told me that the Pride Parades had lost their meaning.  Now they are just commercialized events like everything else.  I could see that as the Crest Toothpaste, Capital One, cell phone providers, etc floats went by.  We stood at Bloor and Younge, and watched the parade for three hours. We also went to the Street Fair the night before.  We walked through the Street Fair holding hands.

A large group of old men marching naked through the street?  Was this really necessary?

There were a number of social support and human rights groups marching, and that was great to see.  What's going on in other parts of the world, like Chechyna, is appalling.

We also ran into my friend George there.  He was with four friends.  Two of them spent the day at Steamworks.

It was interesting.  Not sure I'd rush back.

Monday, June 5, 2017


A trip to Singapore and Malaysia has been on my bucket list for a long time.  I'm seriously thinking of going this fall.  The flights are as inexpensive as last year -- like $800 from Toronto.  I'd like to visit Singapore, KL and Penang.  I hope I can do it over 8 days.  Penang might be a good place to winter after I'm retired.  I don't think Florida is for me.

I should go there and at least explore these places.

Sunday, June 4, 2017

Toronto Pride

My bf and I are planning to attend Toronto Pride in three weeks.  All the hotel rooms are 2-3 times the normal price that weekend.  I've never been to a Pride event before, and this one is supposed to be the biggest.

I wonder how we will fit in.  It's a life experience, and I should try it at least once.

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

My bf Andy and I moved to our new apartment in the downtown five months ago.  There is a gay club about four blocks away.  We haven't been there yet.  We've joked about going, but we still haven't been there.  Not even for a minute.

Maybe we are the most boring guys?

Last weekend we went grocery shopping on Saturday and got some takeout food.  We came home and watched Manchester by the Sea.  We were in bed before 11.

His friend said he wasn't surprised Andy was dating an older guy, as he has the mind of an older guy.

Maybe being the most boring guys isn't such a bad thing.

Sunday, March 19, 2017

Blogging Therapy

I started blogging more than ten years ago.  It was therapy for me.  A chance to really focus my thoughts and articulate them.  I had a following of readers -- Two Lives, New Day/New Life, Dear Zach, Conflicting Clarity, and many others -- who frequently left comments often with a perspective I hadn't thought of.  I actually met two of my readers.  Some of my blogger friends have let their blogs go dim, and for a while now I have rarely posted.

I continue to believe that it's good therapy for me.  My life is stabilized.  I'm more relaxed.  I'm grateful.  Most importantly, I need to make today the best I can while planning for the future.

Saturday, March 18, 2017

Planning the End of Work

I'm in the last decade or so of my working life.  I'll probably work longer than I need to just for the medical insurance.  But I'm thinking about what I want to do for the next chapter.  After a major health issue last year, I'm also wanting to live more now.

Being a fair skinned Irish INTJ, my ideal vacation isn't at the beach or partying on a cruise ship.  I'm kind of tired of looking at older buildings in Europe too.  How many castles or cathedrals do I really need to see?  I like big cities, like NYC.  But only for a few days.  After more than a few days I feel overstimulated.  I'm feeling like after a week or so I'd like to be back home.

Many of my family and friends retire to Naples or Fort Myers.  Both are nice places, but honestly, neither are for me.  I don't feel as though I would fit in.  I don't think I would want to buy a second home either.  I don't want to always go the the same place.  I don't want to maintain two houses -- too much infrastructure.  Staying close to my family is also important, so I don't want to move permanently 1500 miles away to Florida.

I'm thinking that maybe Georgetown, Malaysia or Phuket or Singapore might be good places for me to go for a month or two.  Warm, different locations where I can relax and explore.  The people are important too -- I always seem to make a better connection with Asian people than Caucasians.   Maybe I'd connect better with the people in these locations.

I should go on exploratory expeditions now.  On a weeks vacation I can judge if a place could be a good spot for me to spend the worst two months of the winter.  This year is a good one for an exploratory trip, however my boyfriend is not enthusiastic about a trip to Singapore and Malaysia.  I should be visiting the country of my current bf, not my ex bf.  But then I'm not so enthusiastic about China.  I haven't been there, but I don't think it's a place I'd want to spend much time.  I'd also be more comfortable in a place with English as a major language.

It's March 18th.  I have nineteen more vacation days to take this year.

P.S. Does anyone read my blog any more?