I had another call with Seth this weekend. Now I'm pissed off.
Last week he had a long conversation with this new bf -- who he now refers to as his "partner." The bf told Seth that his wife has been there for him and his family through some very bad times. So even though it's a loveless marriage, he cannot leave her. Also, he has a very good job and is well known in the community, so leaving his wife for a man really isn't an option. This guy has two sons in their early twenties. So at the end of the conversation, Seth decided to STAY WITH HIM!
"I know there's lots of reasons I shouldn't be doing this, but I've never met anyone so perfect for me."
This statement made me really angry. Really? WTF was I?
The bf now has a key to his apartment. He comes in at 5am and crawls into Seth's bed. Seth comes home and finds roses all over his bed and candles lit. Seth is looking for a new apartment close to his bf. Getting a new apartment in Germany is a big deal.
"I don't want to be a homewrecker. Doing something detrimental to another family is totally against my culture." Really! Then wtf are you doing it??
They can see each other for one or two hours a day. Except for Thursday -- because that's the day his bf has his bible study class. AWWWWWWW!!!! I want to scream.
My relationship with Seth was more than five years ago. I still really care about him. He has many good qualities, but he is stupid sometimes. Emotions can rule for him, whereas I'm driven by rationality. He lives 4000 miles away and a continuing relationship with him just wasn't going to happen. I've moved on, but the hard part is that I haven't connected with anyone else like I did with him. Now it feels like I value the relationship we had a lot more than he does.