Money Boy

 

More than ten years ago I had a bf who was Malaysian Chinese (what a coincidence).  The relationship lasted less than a year and he returned to school in Europe.  I have good memories -- great guy and quite good looking.  Despite being quite a bit younger than me, he was experienced sexually.  He had lived in KL for two years and it sounded like he saw a lot of action.  He stayed in Europe after he graduated and we stayed in touch.   I saw him many times when I was in Europe.   He has a good paying job and comfortable life.

So I was surprised when he confided to me that he had a "part-time job" as a money boy.  "Why would you do that?" I asked.  At that time I thought of money boys as desperate drug addicts or under the control of a brutal pimp.  I guess some people just do it for the extra cash.   He told me it was a fetish.  A sexual interest he needed to explore.  He was selective with the clients, some he turned down.  

The majority of the clientele were, you guessed it, married men.

Here's where it gets complicated.   In the course of his "business" he met a married man.  This guy was married for decades and had two grown sons.  He was very active in his church.

What started as a business relationship turned into a romantic relationship.  The relationship turned serious and the married man committed to leaving his wife.  This man spun a web of lies as he spent so much time away from home and even traveling with my ex.

I remember having breakfast with my ex in Europe.  He excitedly told me how perfect this guy was and how they would build a life together.   I stayed quiet, but all his friends told him it was a bad idea.

That night he called me crying.  This guy had left him a note saying he could not throw away his whole life --   his wife, his sons, his church -- all would ostracize him.   He couldn't go through with it. 

Interesting what can happen.   Probably best that this relationship crashed.