I came across this and it seems to make a lot of sense to me...
1. Social media = validation disguised as connection
2. Porn = loneliness disguised as pleasure
3. Alcohol = escape disguised as entertainment
4. Drugs = numbness disguised as calm
5. Endless scrolling = distraction disguised as relaxation
6. Luxury = emptiness disguised as success
7. Smoking = dependence disguised as stress relief
Definition:
An asexual person does not experience sexual attraction – they are not drawn to people sexually and do not desire to act upon attraction to others in a sexual way. Unlike celibacy, which is a choice to abstain from sexual activity, asexuality is an intrinsic part of who we are, just like other sexual orientations. Asexuality does not make our lives any worse or better; we just face a different set of needs and challenges than most sexual people do.
In this group of gay friends that my bf is on the edge of, there is a gay couple who are engaged. However, one of the guys in this couple is having an NSA sexual relationship with another guy in the wider group. "Why would he do that? He's engaged." I asked. The answer is that the other guy in the couple is asexual. I questioned is there really such a thing as asexual? How can someone be like that? I've heard the term "asexual" used in a joking fashion about guys, but not as a serious diagnosis. It is a real diagnosis, and there is actually an asexual pride flag (shown above).
It's important not to judge. If this is the way the guy feels, then it's his preference, his business. Maybe he gets satisfaction in a different way.
So many different stories coming out of this thirty person gay group that my bf tells me about.
I was considering a trip to Portugal, Spain and Morocco in October. I've nixed it. No one to go with and my heart just wasn't into it. Maybe next year. I am for sure going to do my Asia trip. Planned departure date January 20th.
My bf can't extend his lease past October, and he asked if he can spend November at my place. This is a good trade off for me.
I want to try to do some short road trips in November. This will be different for me and certainly easier than flying somewhere.
There are no travel deals anymore. Flying is so expensive now. Probably because of oil prices and the demise of Spirit. Flights I could buy for $80 last year are now over $200.
I can't believe another summer is nearly over. Elections in two months and I'm hoping for real change. That's the big upcoming event. It's astounding that Trump sycophants are winning primary elections. Watching Lindsey Graham's sister was sickening. I keep hearing that his approval rating is down to 33% -- really?? How can it possibly still be that high?
More travel challenges on this trip than I've experienced in a long while. Two of the three legs of my trip were cancelled and rebooked to much later. We were supposed to arrive in Montreal at 11am on Saturday. Our flight was cancelled and we got there at 9pm. My departure flight on Tuesday also cancelled an replaced with a crazy two stop routing through Halifax and Newark. After an hour and a half on the phone I got it changed to something reasonable.
The gay pride was smaller than Toronto and certainly tamer. Montreal has a Gay Village that is considerably larger than Toronto. My bf and I don't drink (boring people I guess) so we walked through the Village but that's all. Toronto seems much bigger, and definitely more spread out.
Finding good restaurants is a challenge. None of the ones we chose in Montreal really hit. They weren't bad but nothing we would run back to.
Next trip is NYC again in a month.
So far this year I have read eleven books. More than I've read for years. I have a hold on American Scoundrel. It's just being released and on order at the library. Roy Cohn was a vile human being, but I think this will be an interesting story.
Donald Trump's two most important mentors: Roy Cohn and Jeffrey Epstein. Can you imagine?
I've been meaning to get started with this for months. Finally in the last two weeks I've done it. And it is...
Kettlebell Training
I'm finding that this is quite a workout. It takes my heart rate into zone 4 sometimes. So good for strength and cardio. I'm just doing the basic moves with a 20 lb bell. The guys giving kettlebell advice on YouTube are often using 30 KG bells or more. So far it's been easy for me to do 25 minutes. I'll work up to more and add some advanced movements.
I was getting bored with the other exercise routines I was doing. Good to have something new and different.
