Sunday, February 21, 2016
One of my goals for this year to date more age appropriate guys. Guys like Jack are fun, but at 24, realistically he's too young for me.
So when I met a guy online who's profile showed him as 38, 5'8, 170, Latino, well educated professional I was interested. Finally after chatting for many weeks we met last night. He suggested we meet at my place, but I changed that to the downtown. I explained that I am not looking to just get naked, I want to get to know him and see if we could actually become friends. So it was a real date.
We met at a park in the center of downtown. My first impression was that he was older than 38. Whatever, most guys over 30 lie about their age....no surprise here. There wasn't instant attraction for me.
We had a good conversation. He's actually a dentist who was previously married and has two kids. So we had much in common. He showed me around the downtown, we had some drinks and then ended up in a gay bar that was a few blocks away. It was just before 11 and the place was still pretty empty. We didn't stay long. Just curiosity I guess.
Even though there were a lot of things right about this guy, I didn't feel particularly attracted to him. I kept thinking about what I would do at the end of the night.
As it got closer to midnight he started hinting about what he wanted to do. I started thinking about what I wanted to do. Maybe it could be fun? Maybe I'd find myself attracted to him. Maybe he's a Latino bear?
So we went back to my place. Long story short - no chemistry....I just couldn't get interested in this guy. He's not 5'8, 170.....more like +200. It felt like he had no idea what he was doing. I don't know, it just wasn't there. Not much happened. Certainly motivated me to hit the gym regularly.
So this is frustrating. I understand I'm far from perfect and need to have an open mind. But as I peruse the guys over 40 on dating sites it seems most are BMI >30 or some other big turn off. Then you have the hardcore group......just sex seeking and look unsafe.
I really don't know what to do.