Friday, August 14, 2015

Speak Now or Forever Hold Your Peace

My relationship with Steve is over.  I haven't seen him in a few weeks and he barely contacts me anymore.

He returns to Korea on Sept 3rd and the wedding is sometime that month.  I told him I will show up at the wedding and object.  But - it's somewhere in Seoul and I don't even know what day.

Back on the market again.

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  1. I guess that I can relate to your situation as the same thing happened to me in Chicago when I was 30 yrs. old and dating a sexy, muscular Chinese man from Hong Kong named Chuck who was 27 yrs. old. We lost our gay virginity to each other half a year earlier. Chuck and I were eating takeaway Chinese food in my apartment on a Saturday evening after an afternoon spent walking through the neighborhood and making out when he dropped a bombshell. "I need to tell you that my parents are becoming nervous that I am 28 yrs. old and have no marriage prospects," he said. "Soon they will call me back to Hong Kong for an arranged marriage to a suitable woman." With that statement our relationship ended. No amount of persuasion could turn Chuck from familial obligation. Asian people put their families first. Not to do so would be unthinkably selfish. We broke up soon after and I can only assume 22 yrs. later that Chuck is still married and has children. I still think of him and I wonder on rainy days when he is near a window with a tree outside if he remembers those rainy afternoons in Chicago when we made passionate love on my bed next to the window.

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    1. Wow, thank you for sharing that story. So similar!

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  2. Wow, RB! Steve got you good! You'd be willing to fly to Seoul to stop this marriage; that's really a commitment. I think your heart's broken; I share your sadness and wish you the best.
    -Scott

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    1. Yes, I do feel badly about it -- but this was just a joke. It's his choice!

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  3. A new job in a different country along with a breakup. That's a lot of change at one time. Enjoy your new adventure and see what comes your way.

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