Wednesday, January 1, 2014

Happy New Year

I'm back from my Christmas travels.  The damage is not so bad, only three pounds.  I've been off work for more than a week now and feeling much better.  I was super stressed before the holidays, made far worse by having to work through the weekend before Christmas....right up until 8pm on Sunday night when we finally called it.  Work-life balance is still a problem I need to fix.  I must learn to say "no".

That Saturday night Ross had invited me to dinner at his place.  At lunch a few weeks ago we talked about meeting while Rico was away.  Sure enough the invitation came.  Sure enough dinner turned into a sleepover.  It was fun.

One success I had last year was hitting my goal weight.  I shifted my workout to more weight training than aerobics a few months ago.  So it felt great when Ross told me I was much more muscular than last year.    Indian Boy had come over Thanksgiving night and he made a similar comment.

Indian Boy was my 2013 fwb.  He's 29, cute and innocent.  Ok, maybe not so innocent.  I don't know why he liked me so much, but he kept coming back.  Now he's gone.  He's getting married in India next year.  He deleted his profile and I have no way to contact him.  He wanted to "get this out of his system" before getting married.  Unfortunately there was no telling him that it doesn't work that way.  I found it fascinating that he wasn't at all tentative or hesitant in bed.....totally into kissing and everything.  I'll miss him, but I have a new appreciation for Indian guys.

Now I need to think about next year.  I'm not going to list all my resolutions for 2014.  There are some things I need to do, but they're not really resolutions.  There will be one major change in my life next year, and that is my youngest finishing high school.  The end of day-to-day parenting (which often feels like policing) and a huge increase in my freedom.  I don't mean to portray parenting like that, because I wouldn't trade the experience for anything.  But we do have some rough periods.

I'll think about my priorities for 2014 over the next few days and write them down.  I did accomplish a few things in 2013, even though it wasn't a particularly fun year.  Today we write the first page of a new 365 page book.

Best wishes to everyone for a great 2014!


  1. My youngest is graduating from grade 12 this year (and he attends the school where I teach). I can totally relate to the freedom from the day-to-day parenting responsibilities of which you speak.

    As well, I think men from India are my favourites. I love their smooth, dark skin and just their attitude as lovers.... hard to describe. Locally, we have a lot more aboriginal men (ie: native-Canadian) and they are very similar.

    I wish you a great 2014!

  2. Happy New Year!!! Wishing you all the best on your 2014 book. Working on my first chapter as well. :-)

  3. Weight training! That's what worked for me. Congrats on reaching your goal. Now you just need to keep working out.

    Ross is an interesting guy. If you two were in a relationship, could you ever trust him or would you want an open agreement?

    I can't wait to see what 2014 brings you, especially after June.

    1. If I was in a relationship with ANY gay guy I would discuss UPFRONT our respective positions on extracurricular activities. This would avoid any surprises.

  4. Happy New Year to you!! Hope to read more from your blog soon ;)