Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Liar, Liar

I had a quick coffee date a few days ago.  It was a guy I met on MH.  He was Indian/Middle Eastern mix, very good looking, 37, a doctor and in reasonable shape.  At least that's what I was lead to believe from MH.  I did talk to him on the phone for a while before we met.  I wasn't planning on meeting anyone....this just sort of happened.

I never go into these things with high expectations.  In fact "prepare to be disappointed" is my motto for these things.  Good thing in this case.  When I saw him get out of the car, a 15 year old Mercedes 420, I new it was him.  Completely different than his profile.  This wasn't a case of face pic from ten years ago...the face pic WASN'T him.  More than a little overweight.  I would say closer to 50...maybe older.

I was polite.  At least give me credit for that.  He stared at me.  It felt creepy.  "Take off your jacket," he urged, "I want to see you."  "Let's see your arms...flex a little."   In the middle of Starbucks??

Almost everyone makes themselves look a little better online than reality.  The legal term is "puffery."  But why do some guys completely misrepresent themselves?


  1. My first reaction was "unbelievable!" But the truth is, what this guy did is not much of a surprise. The most ridiculous part was him asking you to flex in Starbucks. Not because you were in a coffee shop but because he has some nerve acting like you're the one who needs to measure up to his standards. Outrageous!

  2. I completely fell in love with someone who lived in Germany. It went on for months, very intense. Just as I was about to make some sort of plan to meet him, either there or here, he sent me some pics and it looked nothing like the profile pic of a guy that I basically fell for hard. And while one could argue that our conversations were real and I fell for his heart as well, I felt betrayed and couldn't reconnect my feelings to a new person. Not that it's all based on looks, but it plays into the whole package.

  3. I hate when guys do that too!!
    Thats why I do the same and dont go in with any expectations.