Day 26

Day 26!   I can't believe it.  It's actually been remarkably easy.  No spontaneous erections.  No wet dreams.  No need for cold showers (although it has been near zero outside lately).  I have no problem going further with this.  I'm really not interested in porn, although I did peak at Noel who was the subject of a few posts at Closet Professor.

There is one reality I'm facing.  At some point I'm going to have to cum.  I really want it to be from real sex.  Since I've never gone this long before, I don't know what's going to happen.  Suppose it fills my entire bedroom?  It could be dangerous.  Imagine being trapped in a giant bottle of ranch salad dressing.  It would be hard to swim through to escape.  If it happens during sex, then I might be endangering the life of another man.  If I had to call the fire department to rescue us it could be embarrassing.  Not to mention the damage to my house.

Another option I thought of is to jack off near a river.  If it really is hundreds of gallons it will just go into the river and wash away, and I can get away safely.  However, I did read an article about a company that spilled high fructose corn syrup into a river.  It killed fish and created a lot of environmental problems.  The company received a hefty fine from the EPA.  I don't want to damage the environment or be fined by the EPA.  This is probably not a good  option.

The day of reckoning is approaching.  At some point I'm going to find sex, and then have to figure something out.

Low T

Who hasn't seen at least ten different commercials for "Low T" treatments?  Low testosterone is the latest syndrome that drug companies are eager to "help" us with.  I don't think I ever heard of "Low T" prior to four years ago when the barrage of TV commercials started.

What are the effects of low T?  Fatigue, depression, lack of strength, low sex drive, weight gain or difficulty in losing weight.  These are the primary symptoms.

In doing some reading of postings in the "no fap" community I stumbled upon these articles (one and two).  After seven days of abstinence the testosterone levels of subjects in the study increased by 45.7%.

Higher testosterone levels can reduce social anxiety, alleviate depression, solve fatigue and sexual dysfunction issues, and help with weight loss.  A cure all!

There's no way I would take a testosterone supplement.  If I'm going to increase my testosterone level I would do it naturally.  Here's some methods:

• 8-9+ hours of sleep a night to produce the next day's necessary testosterone levels
• Sex, often. Little to no masturbation.
• Diet: Increased fats & cholesterol intake has been shown to raise testosterone levels
• Avoid pesticides as they contain estrogen derivates. Eat organic. Wash fruits/vegetables thoroughly.
• Fitness: Lift. Consider short & heavy sets. Sprints. Intensity.
• Supplements; Core: Vitamin D3, Fish Oil, Whey Protein. Consider: ZMA (Zinc, Magnesium, Vitamin B6), Vitamin C, Creatine. Debatable: Testosterone supplement/steroid use are largely up for debate. Consider making a large lifestyle change prior to evaluating alternative help or shortcuts.
• Limit alcohol intake. Specifically, the hops in beer.

I wish there was an easy way to get testosterone levels measured.  I don't have any other reason to go to the doctor right now.

The symptoms of low T can lead to an unhappy life.  I'm seeking happiness....and looking at many avenues for getting there.  I'm doing some experimentation right now to see the effects of these ideas.  More on that later.  

The No FAP Movement

A while ago I had a post on porn and I included a Tedx video about the effects on the brain.  That led me to the "No FAP movement."  I had no idea what this meant at first because it's not exactly intuitive.  Here's what it's about:

FAP = masturbation

This movement is about not masturbating or looking at porn, and instead seeking real relationships, or just sex with a real person.  Or spend your time doing other things -- not living in a fantasy world of porn.  There is a "No FAP" section on reddit with over 89,000 members.....called "fapstronauts."  These guys say that stopping changed their lives.  It's obvious that many of these guys have or had a serious problem.  It was interfering with other parts of their lives.  It had become a substitute for a relationship.

The point here is to avoid PMO (Porn-Masturbation-Orgasm), or even MO.  This program runs similarly to AA, and you get a badge for reaching milestones -- 30, 60, 90 days.  Some guys have gone more than a year.  You can't JO -- but you can have real sex!

Some of the posts are hilarious.  "Is this medically safe?   "After 20 days 4's and 5's look like 7's and 8's"  But many of the posts are very substantive, and explain how their lives' have improved since they stopped.  Far more time spent productively and much more effort directed to seeking a real relationship.  Overall they are happier.

You don't have to be sitting in front of a computer screen eight plus hours a day, skipping school and work for PMO to be a problem in your life.  The effects can be much more subtle.  Porn is so convenient.  You come home, you feel stressed and maybe a little horny.....do the PMO thing and it feels good.  But here's the problem:

• When you PMO you lose motivation to meet real people.
• Porn may skew your reality.  Nobody OR no sexual experience will meet your unrealistic standards that have been created by porn.
• It takes increasingly longer to get off with porn.  You need to find that "right" video to light up the orgasm section of your brain, and that becomes more and more difficult and time consuming.
• Very quickly the time spent on this activity can become excessive.
• Sexual performance suffers.  You may get PIED (Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction).  On reddit there are comments from 19 yo guys who can't keep an erection when faced with the opportunity for real sex.

I was surprised at how big this movement is, and intrigued by all the comments.  I guess I shouldn't be.  Porn is like a drug and the internet has spread it like wildfire.  How long has there been streaming video on the internet?  How long since everyone got broadband?  Less than ten years I think.

Now we are seeing the effects.