I hadn't heard this term before. Maybe it's Asian slang. This came up in the sex discussions that my bf doesn't want to hear. It means a couple who are still together, but no longer have sex. There was a discussion of certain couples in the larger group who are in this situation. What have they done? Go to an open relationship? Perhaps rely on their right hand? Some of these couples are only in their late twenties -- how could this happen? I've heard that most gay couples eventually get bored with each other and either break up or go to an open relationship. The consensus seems to be at around three years.
Assuming the violence dies down, I'll be in Yucatan Mexico with my bf next week and will hear a lot more.
This is the classic pre-break-up phase every gay couple would have to go through. Having an open relationship is the catalyze to the leading break-up, esp for gays in twenties. And it comes as no surprise when either one party getting attached to a younger guy. Just like some old gay guy would prefer younger man at late 20s rather than to be with a guy at his age.
ReplyDeleteThe sex stopped, and then open relationship happened. These guys still live together in the same bed.
Deletethis scenario is exactly the same as heterosexual couples (esp married ones), except that one of them cheating behind their partners but still living in the same bed. It's nothing new. It just that we gay people tend to resort to having open-relationship in consensus as a final effort in saving the relationship.
DeleteMy female friends call it lesbian bed death.
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