One recurring conversation I have with gay friends is "not enough sex." I've heard this so many times. I've even had this conversation with my own boyfriend. When sex dwindled to once in a month we had to talk.
I think gay men are quickly bored. New relationship. New guy. New sexual experience. After six months one or both start to become bored. How many guys online are partnered and now the relationship is open? There's a relationship, which could be even for convenience, but the guys are looking elsewhere for sex. I've even met guys in greater than five year relationships who really seem to be committed to one another.....and there is still play on the side.
With my latest relationship I never strayed. My boyfriend did however. When he did, and this happened on two occasions, he came to me crying to confess. The biggest thing missing from our sex life was anal. For him, oral sex was enough. But not for me. We discussed this "disconnect of needs." He had to discuss this with one of his friends, which I didn't really like.
Maybe this is just the way it is for gay relationships?
Hey RB,
ReplyDeleteI don't think it's a gay thing, but an issue of how both parties come to terms with fulfilling each other's needs. Doesn't matter whether the relationship is gay or straight. It's the same. Think it's good to talk things through. End of the day, both sides need to be comfortable with each other, sexually, emotionally and all.
All the best.
Jeffrey
Yes, you are right. I should have made that point.
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