A little bit....
I had a profile on A4A and showed myself traveling in Canada. Out of the blue, someone sent me an email saying, "Are you in town working at ABC Company?"
Bingo. They nailed it. There's enough details in that profile to figure out who I am and someone put 2 and 2 together. I guess when you're the number three at an 1100 person company people pay attention to you.
I don't want to be out at work, but it is hot to know that someone suspects and is watching me. My slight discomfort is in the details of that profile. You all know what goes in those profiles.... provocative pic, cock size, sexual preferences, etc. Too much detail for the workplace, but oh well.
I don't want to become the subject of gossip at work, but if one person or whatever suspects it's no big deal. It's 2016, you say. No one cares. I know from experience people take notice of this and it's discussed.
Now let's see what his next move is.
You don't mention how (or whether) you responded to him.
ReplyDeleteIf you didn't respond, did you change your profile to better hide yourself? If so, that reaction will likely confirm his suspicions.
You never know, of course, but my guess is that he was reaching out as a matter of community. If you're both gay and both work at the same company, why not be friendly? And/or he may think that knowing you at work would give him some advantage. Either way, it seems unlikely that he would be hostile to you unless he believes you are hostile to him. Perhaps the best way to handle this is to answer honestly and explain why you don't want to be out. Perhaps by establishing a personal connection he'll be less likely to gossip about you. It's even possible he could develop into a long-term friend worth having.
I responded and told him I am consulting at another company and will be headed back to the US. We exchanged a few emails and he says he is a teacher. It almost appears now that he made a lucky guess.
DeleteIf anyone talks to me looking for personal details and looks at me strangely I might suspect he works for my company. Right now doesn't seem like he does.
That is a scary spot to be in. If you come out you want to do it on your terms. I guess it is time to change your profile...??
ReplyDeleteNot so scary. If I get seen by my coworkers making out with a guy, then there's no question. This is just a profile that could be me....it's not for sure.
DeleteUnderstood....
DeleteI'd be a bit paranoid.
ReplyDeleteI did have one online stalker before, who was able to trace even my then boyfriend's facebook account.
Be cautious nonetheless.
I'd be a bit paranoid.
ReplyDeleteI did have one online stalker before, who was able to trace even my then boyfriend's facebook account.
Be cautious nonetheless.
I like to keep my personal life and work life completely separate, if people at work found out I wouldn't panic but I'm very private so it would be very annoying to become part of the rumor mill.
ReplyDeleteYou finally changed your profile pic. That's good. Someone figured who I was from my profile stats. He never said who he was and I don't think I ever met him.
ReplyDeleteHey man. Just added your blog link to my "Blogs I'm following" list. :) Wanted to let you know this is not the last time I'll visit you, that's for sure.
ReplyDeleteStay well. ^_^