Other People

 

 

I notice one very common theme among self-help books -- stop caring about what other people think of you.  Think about Mel Robbins - "The Let Them Theory",  "The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fu&k", "The Courage to be Disliked",  "The Art of Letting Go", "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fu&k".....the list goes on and on.

The fact that this is a topic in many self-help books indicates (to me anyway) that it's a problem for a lot of people. 

I agree, it's all good advice.  The reality is that probably no one is thinking about you anyway.  Even though this seems easy, it can actually be difficult.  If you are caring about what others think, then you are forever their prisoner.   Great saying.   You're wasting a lot of time. 

Sometimes I just want to vanish.  I don't want anyone thinking about me or looking me up.  The reality is that probably no one cares and this is not anything I need to worry about.  That's why I don't really need to vanish. 

This kind of self-help advice is similar to "stop agonizing over the past -- you can't change it so move on."