My bf is on the fringes of a large group of Asian gay guys. When he's feeling less antisocial, he sometimes socializes with smaller groups of them. The topic of conversation is often sex. The larger group is a mix of couples and single guys. He will tell me about the conversations sometimes, and usually say that he doesn't want to hear about their sex lives. Haha, but I can tell he does want to hear about it. I've told him that I think he actually does like hearing about what they do. It seems interesting. The group is active, and at least one of them is probably a sex addict. Topics all over the place, from hookups to which couples are having challenges, open or even sexless.
While we were talking a few days ago he mentioned that he had told them something about our sex life. I recoiled a bit and he could tell. I'm a private person and not sure how I feel about this. Not really a big deal I think. Maybe it's good to show them some of our humanity? They know who I am. I've socialized with the larger group one time, although I find it awkward because they are mostly speaking Chinese. I've socialized with smaller groups a few times. I'll see my bf in ten days and we can discuss.
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On another note, beautiful weather today. I feel like winter is over. At 7am it was 59 F (15 C). I went running three miles. It felt really good. Yesterday I went out for a walk around 6:30am. It was still dark, but so many people out running and walking. Morning people. I'm going to go out more in the early morning.
I would not be happy with a boyfriend discussing our sex life with a group of friends. A confidential talk with a best friend would be okay.
ReplyDeleteIt is bound to happen when one associates with a group of gay friends talking about sex. Your bf probably didn't want to get left out from the group feeling unwanted.
ReplyDeleteI think you're right. Everyone was talking and he just wanted to participate. They might have asked him for some details.
DeleteI'm a private person as well so I would have not been happy to have my sex life shared w/o my consent. However, I understand like Zach said he probably did it to keep from feeling left out/unwanted. Winter is so not over yet but we are closer than we were last month. :-)
ReplyDeleteYes, he didn't want to be left out. I guess it's not that big a deal. I know so many details about these guys. I'm sure way more than they know about me.
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