Sunday, October 23, 2016

How Did this Happen?

I keep asking myself this.

How did I end up in a serious relationship with a 24 year old guy?

Of all the guys I've met and sometimes dated.....this is the only one that has really worked out?  He's not even in the n/2 +7 range.

This wasn't my plan.  I was trying to meet age appropriate guys.  The focus was skewed towards Asian, as I usually have better luck there.  Maybe it's the quiet, reserved personalities that are a better fit for me.

I chatted on Grindr for thirty minutes with one 40-something Asian guy.  He was a teacher.  Not particularly good looking, but hey, age appropriate is the priority.  I shared my face pic.  Gone!  He just blocked me.  I guess I'm not particularly good looking to him.

I had an actual date with a Latino guy, a well educated professional.  I'm not sure exactly how old he was, but would guess 45 to 50.  We walked around and had some drinks.  He said he was 5'8" 170.....the reality was more like 210.  But hey, he's age appropriate.  There just wasn't attraction for me.  As much as I tried there just wasn't.  I texted after and said we could meet again.  He never called me.  I never called him.

I could go on with the other attempts, but you get the point.

My new bf asked me why I said hi to him on Grindr.  "You could see that I was 24," he pointed out.

"Not Asian guy in town?" I replied.

My bf thinks this is hysterical and often repeats it to me.

Next weekend we move to our new apartment.  I sometimes have to pinch myself.  I rarely think of his age.  He's my bf.  We love to cook together.  We've spent several weekends in Toronto.  I've never been with an extreme cuddler like he is.  Our NYC trip two weeks ago was awesome.  We took full advantage of our unlimited subway passes over five days.  It was a great time.

He's been a blessing to me.  I returned to work in July after major surgery.  I don't know how I would have survived the month without him.

Sometimes I think about what will happen in the next 12-18 months.  I have to return to US.  He will finish grad school.  I guess it's best to stay in the present.

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