Wednesday, March 22, 2017

My bf Andy and I moved to our new apartment in the downtown five months ago.  There is a gay club about four blocks away.  We haven't been there yet.  We've joked about going, but we still haven't been there.  Not even for a minute.

Maybe we are the most boring guys?

Last weekend we went grocery shopping on Saturday and got some takeout food.  We came home and watched Manchester by the Sea.  We were in bed before 11.

His friend said he wasn't surprised Andy was dating an older guy, as he has the mind of an older guy.

Maybe being the most boring guys isn't such a bad thing.

Sunday, March 19, 2017

Blogging Therapy

I started blogging more than ten years ago.  It was therapy for me.  A chance to really focus my thoughts and articulate them.  I had a following of readers -- Two Lives, New Day/New Life, Dear Zach, Conflicting Clarity, and many others -- who frequently left comments often with a perspective I hadn't thought of.  I actually met two of my readers.  Some of my blogger friends have let their blogs go dim, and for a while now I have rarely posted.

I continue to believe that it's good therapy for me.  My life is stabilized.  I'm more relaxed.  I'm grateful.  Most importantly, I need to make today the best I can while planning for the future.

Saturday, March 18, 2017

Planning the End of Work

I'm in the last decade or so of my working life.  I'll probably work longer than I need to just for the medical insurance.  But I'm thinking about what I want to do for the next chapter.  After a major health issue last year, I'm also wanting to live more now.

Being a fair skinned Irish INTJ, my ideal vacation isn't at the beach or partying on a cruise ship.  I'm kind of tired of looking at older buildings in Europe too.  How many castles or cathedrals do I really need to see?  I like big cities, like NYC.  But only for a few days.  After more than a few days I feel overstimulated.  I'm feeling like after a week or so I'd like to be back home.

Many of my family and friends retire to Naples or Fort Myers.  Both are nice places, but honestly, neither are for me.  I don't feel as though I would fit in.  I don't think I would want to buy a second home either.  I don't want to always go the the same place.  I don't want to maintain two houses -- too much infrastructure.  Staying close to my family is also important, so I don't want to move permanently 1500 miles away to Florida.

I'm thinking that maybe Georgetown, Malaysia or Phuket or Singapore might be good places for me to go for a month or two.  Warm, different locations where I can relax and explore.  The people are important too -- I always seem to make a better connection with Asian people than Caucasians.   Maybe I'd connect better with the people in these locations.

I should go on exploratory expeditions now.  On a weeks vacation I can judge if a place could be a good spot for me to spend the worst two months of the winter.  This year is a good one for an exploratory trip, however my boyfriend is not enthusiastic about a trip to Singapore and Malaysia.  I should be visiting the country of my current bf, not my ex bf.  But then I'm not so enthusiastic about China.  I haven't been there, but I don't think it's a place I'd want to spend much time.  I'd also be more comfortable in a place with English as a major language.

It's March 18th.  I have nineteen more vacation days to take this year.

P.S. Does anyone read my blog any more?

Sunday, March 5, 2017

One Year

I can't believe this.  It was one year ago today that I met my boyfriend.  I never thought it would turn into this.

It's great to have him cling to me at night.  I love cuddling with him.

He graduates in October.  What then?  Another bf to move away from me?  Not sure what will happen.

Yesterday we were in Toronto shopping.  Several circles through Yorkdale Mall.  It's a nice mall and we bought a few things.   Exchange rate is quite good for me.  Anyway it was a good day.