Thursday, September 22, 2016


Andy and I spent last weekend n Toronto.  TIFF -- Toronto International Film Festival was going on.  We didn't plan very well, so we only got to see one film, but that's ok.

We both love Toronto.  It's a very diverse city with an incredible amount of restaurants.  The waterfront and Toronto Islands are great.  Although we didn't make it to the nude beach this time.

Every time Andy sees two guys holding hands in public he nudges me.  It's comical.  There were several, but it's no big deal in Toronto.   Anyway, it was a fun trip and it's great to have someone to go with.

Next month:  Four days in NYC!   Can't wait.

Sunday, September 11, 2016

Where am I Now?

Still with same bf.  In three weeks it will be seven months.

He sold his furniture.  He moved in with me.  Next month we move to new apartment on 20th floor of a downtown building in a fantastic location.

It feels strange actually living with someone.  I leave for work at 7am and kiss him goodbye.

In bed at night we hug and say, "we're a gay couple" and start to laugh.

We had a good conversation in July.  I'm not sure this is a good permanent relationship for him.  The age difference is too big.  That's my opinion.  We discussed whether it's good to be in a relationship that probably won't turn into a long-term thing.  Should we just end this?

"I don't want to break up with you Rob," he told me, "This is the life I want."

This relationship feels good to me too.  We both like to cook, travel, explore the city.  It feels so good to cuddle with the same man every night.  He clings to me all night long.  When I change sleep position, he adjusts to me.

In the next two years things will change for both of us.  He will finish grad school here and go to a PhD program.  I will move to an assignment somewhere else shortly thereafter.